Dating a Man A Generation Younger Means I Have to Stop Playing Games ⛔

Communicating With Strangers

You’ve probably felt at least a twinge of disappointment that you didn’t get that call, text, or email back, which means you’ve probably been communicating with strangers more than you’d like to admit. Just because you aren’t seeing the person in person, or haven’t heard back from him or her, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to flirt, be cute, and maybe even pick up an occasional phone call.

If you’re in the uncomfortable position of being the one receiving the communication, keep things simple and businesslike: Use an app like Hinge (and don’t be afraid to say “hi” in the first line, either—not every woman has to be “aspiring Victoria’s Secret model” in the beginning.) Or if you’re comfortable texting, you can use a texting technique called the “Just Checking” method. Essentially, it involves pretending that the text or email is a real person—and that they are responding to your text. When answering questions, make it personal: “Have you ever been to Boston?” instead of “Have you ever been to Boston?” with a city name. Use first names when you write in a text, or else someone can use that information to find your profile and potentially steal your identity.

After that, the “dating” part of dating is easy. Ask questions about the other person that you wouldn’t ask in a normal conversation, like, “If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?” Ask about their job, interests, hobbies, and more.

A dating app works the same, but instead of emailing or texting, you pick a date and meet up. And you can’t “Just Check In” if you do that.

I met my now-husband (on a dating app) when I was 18, and we’ve been married for four years. The first time he showed up to my house for a date, I was a nervous wreck. The next time, I was more comfortable in my own house, and I threw on my favorite outfit. It was an auspicious beginning—and luckily, it was no different than the real deal.

Setting Up Multiple Dates

While it’s true that a single date is easier to coordinate, it also means that you have to settle for second (or third, or fourth, or…) best. If you find a guy (or girl) you like, you can set up a second or third
Dating as we know it today isn’t always what it used to be. Before, you would have to see someone in person to know if they were right for you. Then, the technology revolution.

Now, with the help of online dating sites, you can swipe your way through a series of pictures and 10-second videos of potential love interests. Sometimes the only way you can get to know someone is through a few emails, flirtatious texts or even a phone call. If this sounds like a perfect match for you, here are seven tips from real people that will help you make it through that first date.

Let’s start with the big one: No matter what anyone tells you, you only get one chance to make a first impression. If you don’t make a good one, you could miss out on a great relationship. So, before you go to the next step in your search for love—whether it’s online or, hopefully, in person—you need to be sure you are projecting the absolute best image of yourself.

Get Acquainted…In The Most Tangible Way Possible

There’s no way around this one. You have to give some attention to what you’re putting out there. If you show up to a first date unshaven or with a broken phone, it’s going to be difficult to project the right vibe. Make sure you wear clean clothing, your shoes are shined, and your phone is charged. To be on the safe side, pick up the first few things you see before you go into the building. Just don’t do it too soon; if you walk in with a backpack or dirty back, you’ll have to do the entire date wearing that backpack.

…And Bring Some Friends

Now, while I’m not entirely opposed to some guy showing up alone to a potential date, I think that’s generally a bad idea. You can’t know how a person is going to act if they haven’t been introduced to anyone. So, if you know someone you’d like to bring along, that’s ideal—as well as a good idea for any good first date.

A word of advice: Don’t bring friends with you. If you do, they’re going to draw attention to themselves and make you look like a total loser. A good rule of thumb: If your friend doesn’t know this person, they don’t belong at the first date.

Pick A Good Spot to Meet

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